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[quote=Anonymous]To the person suggesting they’d have an affair at the one year mark, don’t. Yes, there probably is someone who would like to have sex with you and not disrupt their family.. and it could work for a time. Plan on it going wrong, you start to want to be with this person on the daily and not just for sex. You like the sex but this person shows signs of things you don’t like like they want to meet the kids, they talk of moving to your area (which they are allowed to do) they decide or already coach or are involved in something your kids like, sex with another adult won’t barr them from starting or continuing them doing the same things you do, soccer, church, drums, the same things you may be doing. Your sex partner isn’t a plaything you can just put away when you’re done and never have them turn up again for nothing to do with you but in your mental state, you’ll see it as “they can’t let go” “they’re stalking me” “they might kidnap my kids” when all they want to do is live in an area with good schools same as you do. Try explaining to your wife and kids why you don’t want them taking swim lessons with Ms. Sally or why they can’t join chorus because when the answer is you used to bone the music teacher or still are.   Remember that.

Plan on being branded a cheater, people are fine with divorce, they aren’t fine with cheating and nobody will ever believe your version that your partner didn’t want sex with you, or if they do, they’ll think “and if you’d been home with your spouse, you may have just gotten the sex you wanted”.

Secrets have a way of getting out. People see things, hear things, get a vibe something is going on, you aren’t the secret keeper you think you are, and people care way more then you think, at least when it comes to cheating.

Plan for your kids to find out and them being damaged in a way that only comes with cheating, dad screwed around on mom, he didn’t decide he didn’t like her anymore, and oh wait, did he miss my performance because he really did have to work or was he off with his girlfriend? Plan on people saying “You don’t cheat, you drag them to therapy” never mind that you can’t drag an adult anywhere and we don’t have a 911 for therapy. Maybe we should, maybe we do for self=harm but we don’t have it for “my wife won’t f**ck me, something is wrong with her”.  
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