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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This sounds really really boring. Pet her cats? That’s not even a euphemism? If this is what is happening in lesbian relationships, I bet a lot of guys who fanaticize about this are very disappointed. [/quote]

Ha, so true.

Maybe they should lay off the weed, tequila, and couch-potatoing. How about go do something where you can touch a little bit in a flirtatious way. Mini golf? Hike the Billy Goat Trail?  Sit at the corner of a bar, share a bottle of white wine, play a little footsie under the bar? Maybe that would help you get comfortable being physical and sexual. Then you can do a little actual making out.[/quote]

Right? I am not an extrovert by any means, but if this is what dating has come down to f it.[/quote]

OP here. We have gone downtown for brunch, went to the drive in theater, and went out to a Mexican restaurant on the 3 dates prior. We wanted a more chill night I guess [/quote]

What's the big rush? I know that these days "dating" now means "having sex" and having it as early as possible but why not get to know each other as people first? This applies whether the relationship is lesbian, gay, straight or anything else. I get the impression you're both a bit insecure here and overthinking it all. Plan more active outings (not just restaurants/food/movies). What does she really like to do for fun? Where in the area has neither of you been before? Do you realliy share the same interests and tastes--do you know for sure? Are you able to have actual fun together beyond sharing food and watching movies (drive-in or at home)? Worry less about when you "should" be having sex and then it'll happen more organically and naturally, because you both want to, not because either of you feels you "should" be doing it. [/quote]

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