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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Restore your faith in romance? Perhaps it would help if you used other words for it?

Western culture places a huge premium on love and romance constructs, and has successfully exported it to other cultures. But I prefer to think of a long-term, contented relationship as one where partners are loyal and affectionate. It's easier for me to understand. What does romantic mean? To me a candle-lit dinner just means I'm breathing in polluting particles. But I do want and need respect, affection and a long-term commitment from my significant other - it's just that the cliched notions of what's romantic don't quite match that.

Same for the search for happiness. I feel that people often look for intense moments of joy, and when they don't feel that regularly, they call themselves unhappy. So I use the word content. It describes what I can get out of life in a more realistic and achievable way.

Sorry, I don't have book recommendations. I'd like to recommend realistic stories where people are prepared to live with each other's flaws because in the end, they do truly care for one another, and avoid being destructive or hurtful. I don't think reading a "middle-aged woman magically finds herself a well-off, handsome and slavishly loyal middle-aged man" is going to help you in the real world.[/quote]

So - what are your recommendations?[/quote]

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