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[quote=Anonymous]I’m one of four kids and the only one who is financially secure. I have 2 brothers who never attended college and 1 sister that struggles financially despite having a Masters degree. One brother has learning disabilities, lots of kids, and has never maintained any kind of long term employment. He lives with my parents. Older brother is married, owns a home, but has had long term health issues that have prevented him from working the past few years. His wife has been unemployed for over a year. She is trying to find work, gets interviewed, but never gets the job. I think there are too many red flags on her resume. 
I have helped all siblings financially in some capacity over the years. In the past two years, I have given older brother and wife around $12K. My parents have been paying their mortgage for months and can’t afford to pay anymore.

I do pretty well but my husband makes a lot of money. I feel bad to see all of my siblings struggling and the burden it places on my parents. I want to help my siblings but all of them struggle and the situation is not going to change with short infusions of cash. Giving them money is always a temporary band aid. If I substantially help one of them, then the others will want help. I can’t take care of all of them forever and I don’t think it’s fair to my husband to give his money to my siblings. I feel bad that we live such a comfortable life without financial worries and they struggle with the most basic aspects of life.

In what ways would you feel obligated to help? At what point do you say no more? I’m truly torn at where our generosity ends and tough love begins. [/quote]

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