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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OK, thanks, all.  I will keep snuggling with her and holding her hand at dinner and doing all the things she needs.  I"ll destress in other ways, so that she doens't feel like I don't love her.  I love her immensely; it's just interesting how diff people feel and interpet love.  I dont' want her to grow up feeling unloved, like some of you have posted.  I feel bad for you after reading these stories and it makes me feel really sad to imagine my DD feeling this way in, say, 20-30 years.  Ok, thank you all for your input.  OP[/quote]

Do you tell her that you love her, unprompted every day? Do you tell her things about her that you like and admire? What I'm saying is, you say your primary language is not touch? What is it? If it's gifts of service, do you make special things just for her and tell her so? It sounds like you don't like to be touched (therapy?) and that's it. You wincingly embrace your child but then fancy yourself to be a good mom because you, what, pay the mortgage? Up EVERY OTHER love language towards your child and maybe she will become less touchy feely. You may just find it less work to give her a hug.

And also, if YOU start to initiate some of the affection, she might need less. Get into a routine. Big hugs at bed time or lunch time, for example. Be physical with her when you are going stuff. Like give her a hug when you put her coat on or something. I just find this so weird - Don't you love her? Don't you like her? Don't you think she is wonderful?  Aren't ever just awe inspired by how she is growing and changing? And your resonse is never to want a hug or a kiss or even pat her on the back? Wow. I feel sorry for her. [/quote]

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