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[quote=Anonymous]I’m a 45 year old woman who is significantly sick. I’m also a single mom to a special needs child. I have my hands full. My mom is very worried about my health (but doesn’t seem worried about or to understand at all my child care responsibilities). I don’t want to be a source of concern for her, but I also don’t have the bandwidth to respond to her texts and emails in the level of detail that she’s requesting. I have told her that, and I also told her that it’s stressful that she’s asking me questions over and over about things that I don’t have answers to (like “what’s going to happen with work? Are you going to get fired? How many days of leave do you have left? What happens if you go back and get sick again immediately?”). She says she doesn’t understand why that’s stressful for me. I don’t know how to explain it to her. My life is in complete upheaval, I’m doing my best to get my daughter and I through it, and my mom just pokes and pokes. How to explain?

She also sends long texts and emails asking me about symptoms and what I’ve done for them, and she isn’t satisfied with a short response. For example, she will ask, “Tell me EXACTLY what your symptoms are today. What have you eaten and had to drink today EXACTLY? Have you gained or lost any weight?” Plus about 8 more questions. When I respond and don’t answer every question she says she doesn’t understand why I’m being secretive with her and she is my mother and has a right to know these things. (Reminder that I’m 45.)

I don’t want her to be worried. Truly. But I also need to enforce a boundary here. What should I say?

I have limited energy for this, honestly. I am so very exhausted from being sick.[/quote]

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