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[quote=Anonymous]I don't even know where to start with this, but I have finally had enough time to process all of this and get my feelings down. DH and I have been married for ~5 years and have two small children. He is a great husband and father but has always been very involved in a dangerous and time consuming (not to mention expensive) hobby/sport, which I tolerated pre-kids but ever since our first was born a few years ago it has become a huge wedge issue in our marriage. I have wanted him to give it up completely since he became a dad for the amount of time and risk it poses, but he has always refused saying it is his "escape" and "joy".

Well what do you know, he was out the other week on a day trip to participate in said hobby (leaving me home with the kids for the gazillionth weekend in a row) and I get the dreaded horrible phone call from a stranger that he has been in an accident and is being taken to the ER. Fast forward a very hectic and emotional 48 hours and transfer to another larger hospital and eventual journey home, he has very serious (but ultimately not life threatening) injuries that have left him effectively bedridden for at least the next few weeks.

I have moved beyond the initial extreme shock/worry/relief that he is going to be okay and am now just feeling nothing but anger towards him, that this was totally selfish and reckless and on some level he allowed this to happen by participating in said hobby, while also realizing he could have been left permanently disabled or killed from these injuries and then I feel guilty for being so mad at him. Everyone has expressed their sympathies for his situation but I feel like no one understands what I am dealing with now - I work FT and will also somehow have to manage 2 small kids, a dog, and coordinate/chauffer countless doctor and therapy appointments for DH likely for the next several months. I realize this anger is not productive and I need to find ways to channel it into something more productive/positive. I am hoping to speak with a therapist soon, but looking for any advice or perspective in the meantime. [/quote]

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