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[quote=Anonymous]I’m a late in life accident and have an older sister who is 56 and an older brother who is 59.

My father died when I was 14 and ever since my sister stopped hiding her outright disdain for me.

I never really was close to her growing up and she was married and out of the house by the time I started school.  But in my late teens and early adulthood she made it clear she did not like me.

It was whatever but our Mom was diagnosed with cancer about 8 years ago and she moved back to help care for her (she divorced and her kids are grown).

I remained living in the same city as my mom and we were very close.  My kids were also very close to her and spent much more time with my mother versus my sisters kids who lived states away.  This has always eaten up at my sister.  And since my sister knows her snide comments don’t affect me, she has decided to go after my kids.

My mother passed last week (after a very long battle) and we had her viewing and funeral this weekend.  We had an open casket and DD (11) did not want to see the body.  She attended the viewing but did not go in and apparently my sister pulled her aside and called her selfish and said she must “really not have loved her Grandma if she’s not willing to give her one last goodbye.”

My daughter said goodbye to her the day before she passed and frankly that was traumatic enough.  I beyond livid with my sister but didn’t want to cause a scene until my mom was buried.

DD is very upset and we are all grieving and now that my Mom has passed I’m ready to just end this relationship.  She clearly doesn’t like me.  What’s the point.  Now that she’s harming my kids I am done.

I know emotions are all heightened but she wants to start coming to family dinners and I don’t want her in our house anymore.  I know she’s lonely but it’s her fault for pushing everyone away with her miserable attitude.

DH thinks I’m being too harsh but he has a really great relationship with his siblings.

Thoughts?[/quote]

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