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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should just tell him you are quitting and looking for a new job. Do you have any savings? Don’t wait for permission to live your life, but also, don’t jump to divorce.[/quote]

We have savings but we will have to take the kids out of school and move. It really requires both of us to plan. I can in theory just decide to upend our lives - but it would be so much better if he could summon some vestige of caring and being part of any type of big picture decision making. Right now it’s like having a very neutral nanny that lives with you and would be inconvenienced but not devastated if you were to cease to be. [/quote]

Sorry, OP, that must be a shitty feeling. Take care of yourself. I'd find a therapist or supportive friends or family to vent to and maybe a job hunting support group. If you can reframe his role AS the neutral nanny it may hurt less. I stayed in a not great marriage bc of wanting to conserve assets and have 2 parents on hand bc 1 kid is SN. I try to think of it more as running a family unit not a support for me. Good luck with the job hunt. [/quote]

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