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[quote=Anonymous]Husband and I have been together 13y. But I've started to realize he really doesn't care if I'm ok. I had cancer last year and he was helpful, but not concerned. Since then he's just been mainly... annoyed. I am the breadwinner and have a job I hate, but make a lot (about x5 his salary). I've noticed he doesn't ever proactively try to help me figure out a way to downsize our lives so that I can take a step back. He'll listen and nod - sometimes - when I tell him how unhappy I am. But he never ever suggests solutions for us to adjust so that I could have a better balance. There are times when I am literally crying my eyes out about the level of stress from my job and he is vaguely listening while scrolling on his phone. Right now I am interviewing elsewhere and seeing red flags in places and he just... doesn't care. He says "oh it will be fine". Like - not necessarily if you're the one pulling the 55h weeks surrounded by the worst people ever. He never pulls extra effort with his own career. Recently I got super sick again and was worried and he just made me feel like I was a crazy, anxious irritation who needed to chill the f out. Maybe I am! But clearly he has no more interest in making the effort.
any advice? I would really prefer not to divorce w a 7 and 10 yo, one is neurodiverse. but it's getting - into ridic territory. Should we just divorce or separate or what makes sense? [/quote]

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