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[quote=Anonymous]You're taking mom's words as gospel.

She could be expressing what she thinks brother wants, but she doesnt actually know and id guessing.

She could be expressing what SHE wants and throwing brother under the bus, claiming it's what he wants too when that may not be the case.

She simply could have misunderstood, misheard or misinterpreted something between her and brother.

So, OP, you need to speak up to brother, not rehash this with mom. I get that you're an introvert but your statement about their being cool sounds as if you're almost a bit intimidated by their coolness. Tell your brother what mom said, simply and accurately, then say that you were taken aback because you had thought all three of you would go, and add, did I misunderstand? Are plans already under way?

You could all three go but then each of you has day trips while there with just mom. One day you go see some site you want to see while they go do some mom-son thing. Then brother has a day solo sightseeing while you and mom have mom-daughter time. This is so easily done, but only if you speak up now and make the suggestion.

The fact that you've leapt right to feeeling crushed and assuming mom's statement is a done deal and perfect reflection of actual plans they've made -- that's pretty telling, OP. Do they have a past record of excluding you? All the more reason to ASK brother why your understanding of the trip is different from what your mom said. Please update us![/quote]

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