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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree, well-intentioned but weird. I would roll my eyes hard at the Facebook post which is very obviously virtue signaling. Like even if you make a point to know this stuff and offer appropriate greetings, posting about it to Facebook is just a way of being like "Look how THOUGHTFUL and worldly I am!" I also think it would come off as lecture-y to other non-Jews who might then feel pressure to do it, which I really don't feel is necessary.

The last thing I want is for all my non-Jewish friends texting me to let me know they want me to have an easy fast, lol. I usually don't even fast! I'm a bad Jew.[/quote]

I am OP - and I think this is a lot of it. The FB post was specifically aimed at other Christians - like, hey, Christians, here are the important Jewish holidays and don't bother your Jewish friends during them, but when you do see your Jewish friends here's what to say. Then of course there was the obligatory "please share" - and I was like, please don't! (In my head, I didn't say anything.)

But yeah, I can't remember the last time I celebrated Rosh Hashana or fasted for Yom Kippur. It feels very othering and presumptuous - and also sort of ignorant about how many of us are secular Jews? - to be lecturing one another about what to say and not say to Jewish people on those days. Just be normal, maybe? Be sensitive that some of your Jewish friends may be observing the holidays, and others may not be - like I don't presume that my Christian friends are totally unavailable on Good Friday but if they told me they'd be out of the office or something I would be fine with that, too.

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PP here, and yes. I wonder if one thing that is happening here is that the people doing this are pretty devout Christians, and they assume that people in other religions are devout in the same ways. But I don't keep kosher, fast, or attend temple very often. Assuming that I observe my religion the same way you do is actually kind of limiting.

I disagree with the poster who said "damned if you do, damned if you don't." I think the key is: (1) don't be prejudiced, I'm not going to tolerate anti-semitic comments or actions, this is what I care about the most, and (2) if you're friends with someone, get to know them and maybe ask questions about their faith or religion. Anyone who actually knows me would know I'm not super observant. If someone is wishing me an easy fast, it's a sign that all they know about me is that I'm Jewish (which you could figure out from my name and appearance pretty easily). It's not actually that thoughtful.[/quote]

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