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[quote=Anonymous]Where is your dad in this? What did he think your mom was doing at a different restaurant with you not there? Is he in his right mind?

If he’s in his right mind, is he in good health otherwise? He’s driving….

I’d sit them down and ask them what their long term plans are. They will see this as a threat to their much valued independence but frame it as your trying to **help them preserve** their independence and choices. If they just wait for a crisis there will be fewer choices. They want to preserve their way of life as long as possible and that is understandable. They are hoping they will live like this and someone will suddenly die if they have to die and they will never have to change their living situation. (How was it for their parents?) If your mom or dad is injured in a fall and breaks a hip, is their home accessible or can it be made so? Would they consider moving closer to you in a retirement community? If not, do they have money to hire in-home help when the time comes that they need it?
I had zero success with my parents on any of this by the way. I believe that two parents living together are much less likely to make changes because they think they can take care of each other. That does work for a long time until it doesn’t work anymore and then there’s a crisis and then they have to submit to the things they put off, and at that point it seems it is usually their adult child having to manage everything for them because they no longer can.[/quote]

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