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[quote=Anonymous]Our relationship is one sided. We’ve been together for almost a decade. Pretty much I decide everything and DH goes along with it. While this dynamic has been helpful at points in our relationship, it also makes me extremely frustrated with him.

The problem is he’s prone to negativity and a general lack of enthusiasm about the things. So, for example, I choose a movie and he tells me why that’s a stupid choice, bc one of the actors in the movie supports some alt right group, or some other fact that spoils the movie for me. I choose a color to paint our walls and he doesn’t say a single nice thing about it. When I ask him how it looks (after hours of planning, purchasing, taping, and painting), he says flatly, it looks “okay.” When I buy the kids all of their new school clothes and shoes, he says nothing. When pressed, he says the clothes are “nice,” then grumbles about how we spend too much money.

I could go on and on with examples bc this is how he is all day. It really hurts my feelings bc I put in so much thought into making good choices for our family.

He’s on anti depressants. I’ve tried talking with him about how I would like him to respond instead. He remembers for a day or so if I keep nagging him for kind responses, but then he’s back to his usual.

Also, when I say he upsets me, he just kind of stares at me blankly and says nothing. Eventually I just get worn down and move on. Things go back to normal and then the argument resurfaces again a couple months later.

Does anyone have a DH like this? Has anything helped? [/quote]

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