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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our separation is very new.  In the past week, my co-parent has told my kid

1) That the reason we don't have 50/50 custody is because I won't allow them to see the kid.

2) That the reason they missed visitation is because they were job hunting because I "don't give them enough money to live on".

Neither thing is true, and now I have a kid who is sad, missing their other parent, and angry at me because they think it's my fault.

I know I can't fix the sad/missing their parent thing, but not sure how to address the angry thing.

When kid says "Why don't you let parent take me?"  Do I tell the truth and say "I offered them 50/50, they told me it was too much."?

When kid says "I don't want co-parent to be poor!"  Do I say "Neither do I, that's why I send them $X per month."

I feel as though both of these things would be really hurtful, but so are the lies.  Any advice from someone who has been separated longer?[/quote]

You failed to pick a good partner to have children with. Your fault. [/quote]

That may be true.  But that ship has sailed and the kid exists, and I'm still the one who needs to answer the questions.  I'm pretty sure that "Yes, you are right, it's my fault you didn't get to see your parent because I should never have let you be born." Is not the best answer for my kid's self esteem.

So, since the kid is 100% the innocent party here, I still need to come up with responses.[/quote]

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