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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I are married ten years, two elementary kids and a new baby (five months today!).  We are not adjusting very well to the new reality of my being back at work.  I want to get weekly cleaners to take some of the load off, but what else would you prioritize for the health of the marriage? Date nights (how often)? Any other domestic help?  We are having a rough time and have money to throw at the problem, but I am new to this as I’ve never really outsourced much. [/quote]

We had a similar experience, though only one elementary schooler and a new baby but complete with difficult transition back to work.

Weekly cleaners saved my marriage. What took them 2 hours on a Friday afternoon ended up being, at the end of the day, the topic of most contention in our family/relationship. I did not change my own sheets or clean my own bathroom once between 2017 and 2020 when the pandemic shut it all down. Because of the timing of when we'd been doing basic maintenance chores (nights & weekends), we got all that time back for quality time, which we spent getting to know each other again, reading things together, talking about new things - not just the kids, which is how it had been for a couple years at that point. Had a ton more s*x than I expected with a baby (YMMV obviously, this was NOT my experience with my first child).

I think it depends on your relationship and where the stressors are. [/quote]

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