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[quote=Anonymous]I don't want to hijack the other thread but have a similar question.

DH is 10 years older and plans to retire at 70.  I will be 60 and want to retire at the same time he does -- even though we'd probably be more comfortable if I kept working a few more years.  Our financial planner suggests that I do that to have a better cushion, and just raised his eyebrows when I suggested that I should be able to retire at the same time.

I have worked fulltime for all but a few years of our 23 marriage and earn over $200K, so not an inconsequential amount.  DH has left almost all of the childcare, bookkeeping, home maintenance, doctors, vacation planning and social plans to me even though I've tried hard to establish a healthier balance.   He makes 3/4 of our income and has always said "do you want me to keep earning these bonuses?"  So while it has felt like I'm working two or three fulltime jobs and I'm exhausted all the time, I've just done what he wanted.  His only real chores are doing dishes after dinner and directing the yard guy on what to do.

So am I justified?   Does all my unpaid labor mean that I've earned the right to retire when he does?  If he's out playing golf while I'm still doing al of this, I don't think I'll be able to take it.  He does wants us to spend time together enjoying retirement years, but agrees with the financial planner that we'd be better off with me working until 63 or 64.  [/quote]

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