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[quote=Anonymous]DH’s brother is going through a divorce. He lives in the Bay Area and has two kids, 7 and 5. While I’m sad for the divorce, BIL has been flying with the kids to see family a little more often, and it’s been great to see him and the kids, and get some rare cousin time! We just saw them for Fourth of July at ILs house in Pennsylvania. My family of four stayed in a hotel for three nights to give everyone a little more room.

ILs and DH’s cousin and cousin’s fiancée are set to visit us for Thanksgiving; sometimes we host, sometimes ILs host, and we do Thanksgiving or Christmas with them in a rotation with my family. So this year is ILs turn for Thanksgiving, and our house was set as the locale a while ago. Now, BIL wants to fly with the kids to join us for Thanksgiving, which is great!

What’s not great is, while our house can comfortably host MIL/FIL and cousin/fiancée, it really doesn’t have room for BIL and the kids also. Because my kids frequently see grandparents but rarely see their cousins, DH and I think it makes the most sense for BIL/kids to stay with us, and cousin/fiancée as well, as cousin/fiancée are at a very early stage in their career and grad school, and don’t have a lot of extra money. We even offered to pay for a hotel room for MIL/FIL, and the hotel in question is literally 5 minutes away from our house, very close to the grocery store where we shop. MIL/FIL are able-bodied, drive all the time, know this shopping center well, and (if needed) we could even just pick them up and get them every day.

Well, MIL and FIL are balking. They want everyone to cram in together. I don’t want to ask BIL to stay in a hotel after spending thousands to fly across the country, and my kids want extra cousin time. The easiest and most sensible scenario is MIL/FIL to stay in a hotel. They are causing such a stink about it, DH said he is tempted to say OK then, *you* host Thanksgiving and we will stay in a hotel again near your house. (BIL and cousins are flying into ILs airport anyway, to stay with them for an extra two nights before coming down to our place. Right now, BIL’s tickets are all in and out of PA, but he said he could easily change the return to fly out of BWI.)

What would you do?[/quote]

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