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[quote=Anonymous]It’s great that your partner is on anxiety medicine but it sounds like he needs talk therapy too, like cognitive behavioral therapy. It couldn’t hurt. Do you have insurance that would pay for it?

Is this a career that he’s liked and this is just one bad job experience or is he down on his whole career path? Maybe he’s paralyzed and anxious because he hates this career but feels trapped in it. Maybe he doesn’t want another job in his career and doesn’t know how to switch careers and so is just stuck. With therapy maybe he could explore some other options. Does he feel pressure from you to continue this job career path that he has realized that he hates? Maybe he doesn’t want to disappoint you but also doesn’t want to do the work and so he is just stuck and not doing anything. Are you open to him taking a lower paying career job that he finds more satisfying, Something adjacent to his area of expertise where he would be qualified but one that is not as high paying or high-pressure?

I understand the panicky feeling you have but six months of a job search really is not that bad. He could get another job. Lots of people do.

On the other hand, my own personal experience with a spouse that struggled with career issues is that we were much happier when he just quit trying to work and instead stayed home and took care of the children and most of the house. At the beginning of our marriage, my spouse did not do laundry. Now, he is basically in charge of running the entire house, handles all the kids transportation and planning, cooking, most of the food shopping, all of the laundry and house logistics. That is his work. This is after a long time of trying to find the right career and being sort of miserable doing so.

Having a stay at home parent spouse was not what I thought would happen but it’s turned out to be great in many ways. It definitely was a transition though, from having a spouse who worked and made more money than me to having a spouse who stayed home and took care of things on that front.

It doesn’t sound to me like you’re at that point yet but just think about it. But therapy for your spouse couldn’t hurt.
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