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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, he has gone back on anxiety medication, lost the weight, and is exercising regularly.  I’ve urged him to talk to his doctor about adjusting his medication.  I’m not interested in him being a sahm parent long term because he does the bare minimum or less (I still am in charge of laundry, he cooks, we do dishes/empty the dishwasher about equally. We have house cleaners come every three weeks.). [/quote]

First: Your first sentence is three positives, so take a moment to note that those things are now off the worry list (with the caveat that he needs to keep doing them, of course). All those are good advances.

Since his is a specialized field, is there such a thing as a career counselor or headhunter (rather, job-hunter) for people in this field? Your DH may need the kick-start of a third party, who is not you, pushing the job search at this point. Yes, it will cost money but might be worth it in the long run if such a person exists. Maybe cut the housecleaner for a while, or adjust vacations for the rest of this year if you must--?

Such outside help could take pressure off you, so you're not feeling as if you need to push him and he's not feeling as if you're pushing. And frankly some people just listen better to an outside third party professional than they do to their spouses sometimes. Your DH's anxiety is a complicating factor of course -- is he getting any form of therapy or counseling where he can talk about his job search worries, or is he only taking meds? [/quote]

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