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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You'll fix things and do better next time. Try not to worry, OP. If you're a micro-manager, it's likely that you over-analyze too and that your guests didn't think it was so much of a big deal.
If it's a problem with serving, let people serve themselves. [/quote]

I think they understood and were okay with it, we've all been good friends for years since we moved into the neighborhood together at roughly the same time. I just have a very -BAD- habit of micro-managing and trying to ensure everything goes off without a hitch. I really want to improve on this but I don't know how.[/quote]

My ADHD/ASD husband is like this - it's really annoying for me as his spouse, but guests aren't exposed as much and will happily tolerate his little foibles. Talk about this with a therapist. Micro-managing stems from anxiety. What are you afraid of? That someone will spill, or shatter a cup? That there won't be enough of each little item to go around? You need to self-talk yourself into a more trusting frame of mind, and remind yourself of the priority: not that accidents don't happen, or that everyone has a bite of everything or that the Earl Grey is steeped at 95F exactly... but that your guests, who I PROMISE YOU don't care in the least about such details, sense an atmosphere of relaxation and good cheer. Feeling the stress of the host is the opposite of that.

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