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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my case, because they send off mixed signals.

If I invite them to our home as a part of a big family gathering, they act like they’re burdened by the request and would rather be anywhere else. If we don’t invite them, they become martyrs and make pointed remarks about why they’re not invited.

(And for everything 5 times I extend an invitation, they extend once.)

Hard to figure them out but they are not my side of the family so mainly I ignore their behavior for my sanity.

Another reason to keep engaging is because my kids love them. That reason alone trumps everything else.[/quote]

That’s not an answer to the question. The question is not “why do you invite them,” the question is about if they clearly don’t want to talk or don’t want the conversation to go further, why are you pursuing?

If you invite them and they come over and act stand-offish, why aren’t you just shrugging and leaving them alone to talk to whomever they want to, or do whatever they want?

I get where you are coming from, but the scenario you are describing is not what I’m asking about here.[/quote]

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