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[quote=Anonymous]Has anyone been in a similar situation and could provide some insights and advice?

My mom has dementia, its been progressing so that I don't think she will be able to be 100% independent for much longer. She does not understand which doctors appointments she needs, and even if she does, she is non-compliant. She does not eat a normal diet (just bread and cheese with cold cuts), she gets lost unless its a very familiar walk. My sister lives in a suburb nearby, but due to her own health, work and other issues, she does not think she can visit more than once a week, maybe twice. I live very far from home, and could not spend more than a few months per year there, and that's due to extreme luck of having a remote job. My mom would love to move in with me and have me be her caregiver. Here is the issue: I have kids, a job, a husband and my own health issues. I do not take the time that I would need to remain healthy myself, as I just don't have it. How would I take my mom to doctors appointments, etc if I don't even get to go to my own? How will I take care of her emotional needs, when I am ana introvert and need alone time? I am wiped out after a day of work... she is also much less familiar wiht my neighborhood than her own. None of the options seem good - if she stays and has local support, it would make her very sad, Shed get a visit from my sister once a week, but would be lonely otherwise. If she stays with me, it would be a huge financial sacrifice for us (higher COL), and it would probably deteriorate my own health significantly. I have no good solution. Anyone BTDT? Any advice? TIA![/quote]

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