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Yes, there are options as my parents moved into IL and my dad had assistance brought in for my mom who had dementia.  Fortunately, a memory care unit was added to the CCRC which she went into for several months before she passed.  They were most unusual in that they were about 92 when the decision was made and my dad was independent, but unable to drive after 97 until he went at 99.

More realistic is a neighbor's situation in that the spouse in his early 70s had had cancer and more recently health issues which caused him to fall and his wife who although in her mid-60s had undergone a stem cell transplant for a cancer and thus was compromised and had some continuing health issues.  So, the husband actually realized that his daily life had become closed off and he spent most of the days watching tv and he needed more support.  The choice was made for a local assisted living option with a bedroom and sitting room.  She actually said that she has stayed over a few times, which shows the flexibility of a placement and her husband is much happier with activities and meeting folks to interact with.

It would be important for you and DH to look at the lifestyle offered in the CCRC's and for you to be sure to maintain your active lifestyle and friends.  Do your research to see what the options of leaving in terms of gettng back money if there is an upfront initial payment.  As an elder care lawyer here said, the devil is in "the contract details," and it pays to have a lawyer review with you so that you clearly know what your options are and not just what you think they are.

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