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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Former bulimic here too -

It’s true there is nothing you can do to actually stop the behavior. I totally empathize with you and understand it is really frustrating and creates a tension in the house that is imposed on you. A few ideas…

- eat out to break up the routine for yourself a bit of having to sit there and know she is throwing up
- if she really is being very loud it is appropriate to pull her aside privately and say gently “are you ok? I heard what sounded like you being sick.” No, this is not passive aggressive. If you hear someone throwing up you would ask if they are ok, and pretending like you don’t is avoidance. You should not have any expectation of a certain type of response from her but it is a gentle and honest way to let her know she is heard, like literally.
- for yourself try and distract yourself and limit the amount of energy and time you allow yourself to focus on or think about her
- for next time arrange it so you do not co-habitate with her. You have kids and that is your priority. [/quote]

Another (different) former bulimic here.  Really agree with this. My MO was always total concealment and while I’m sure it wasn’t 100%, I was extremely careful that there were no remnants/evidence to be found.  Any noise was covered.  Honestly, if there’s no effort being made, she sounds like she’s in really rough shape and can use all the empathy you can muster.  [/quote]

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