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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]By being there you are enabling your mom not to hire help. Of course she prefers you to be there. Go home and they will see they needed hired help. [/quote] I posted before and this is so true. We enabled mom for far too long and she became more and more demanding of our time. It wasn't until we backed off and rightly focused on our jobs and family that she finally accepted help. My mother was not big on empathy, but with age any empathy she had faded and there was enormous self absorption and entitlement. When I became ill she was angry at me for setting boundaries. There are some parents who as they age will eat their young to get their own needs met. You have to have boundaries. Now when you back off, there could be a fall or some other emergency, but that is not your fault. You tried and tried to get them to accept help and that fall happens living life on their terms.[/quote]
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