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[quote=Anonymous]My two parents, 90 & 87, have some physical issues that makes it very difficult to live safely without having someone with them, which right now is me. My Mother has fallen up the steps twice this week, first time injuring and cutting her knee, and just tonight has a golf ball sized bump on her head which she refuses to get checked out. My Father is having chronic health issues and has been in and out of the hospital for for two months, mostly in the hospital. I also have a full time job, which I have gone through all of my PTO and am now taking unpaid leave on. I haven’t been there long enough to qualify for FMLA, so I’m starting to fear that I’ll lose my job.

I’ve talked to my parents numerous times about getting an aide in to help them during the day while I’m away. My Dad is coming around and seeing that they do need some help but my Mother, who is the most stubborn and difficult person in the world to deal with, refuses to allow an aide in the house. I do have POA for both of them, but because she is of very sound mind I think she can tell an aide to leave if she wants to?

Does anyone know if I call social services and explain that it’s unsafe for them to be alone while I’m at work, if they can force aides on them?

Any advice? I’m drowning and extremely burnt-out. I really need help. And, I don’t have a any siblings to assist. My friends have offered to help, but my Mother won’t allow them to come in the house. [/quote]

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