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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let go of the things you can let go of. Make the pasta salad with penne, and credit him for trying. For the stuff that really matters talk with no distractions and/or talk and follow up with text or writing. [/quote]

I hear that, but I feel like his blow-ups have cornered me into letting go of everything- I shoulder all of the responsibility vs. he gets to just do his thing feels like a terrible imbalance and nothing close to a partnership.[/quote]

Can you give us an example of where it really mattered?  You've come here and chosen a petty example.[/quote]

Sure- the important thing is not that these things happened, but when he found out he’d executed them incorrectly he blamed me for being upset or frustrated rather than acknowledging that something went wrong, and says it isn’t fair of me to say anything because “that makes him feel stupid”:

-scheduling a flight for a certain time and day that were basically the opposite of when it needed to be (think Monday early morning instead of Saturday afternoon)

-needing to be available for childcare on a certain evening 1x/year, and scheduling an avoidable but uncancellable event for the same time 48 hours before

-given directions and address to a place in multiple forms but he still went absolute wrong way and was late for pickup, leaving child in a dark facility with one employee after hours

-asking him to pick up a specific birthday gift for a specific person at a store (photo and location included) and he came home with something entirely different that was not age appropriate and said he didn’t understand what I wanted

-giving the dog the wrong timing and dose of medication despite written instructions

If I hear “how was I supposed to know?” one more time, I don’t know what I’ll do.[/quote]

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