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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I retired early, my husband does well so I could.  I don’t like to work out, garden, or have hobbies but I’m happy. I do volunteer on occasion but after working 40 years, I like to “do” nothing or just walk my dog. What’s with oeople, live your own life please![/quote]

If you truly like them and enjoy them and aren't just keeping the relationship because you have friends so long or are afraid of change, here are some things you could try:

*Just honestly and non-defensively say "I know you mean well Lola, but I am actually really enjoying my retirement. It sounds like you will want something different when you retire and that is fine too."

*Once you have been assertive and respectful and she just won't stop "Mirtha, I think we need to agree to disagree. We are all different. This is what works for me. I prefer not to discuss it further."

*If she accepts no boundaries, shut it down without words. As soon as she gets on your case, make an excuse to end the visit/call/texting. Also, don't bring it up yourself. I have close friends where I know certain topics are taboo because it brings out a side of them I don't like. I am fine with just not bringing those things up because I enjoy them otherwise.[/quote]

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