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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is not to talk you out of it.  But, some issues I have seen.

Financial - You should do the real math and talk to them about actual costs and what you get for your money.  My in-laws moved 40 minutes outside of DC, couldn't afford it, complained endlessly about the cost, and spent more money moving away again.  Some of it was that they were not willing to give up the space they were used to and they couldn't afford the equivalent here.

Weather - It was too cold for them here.  They couldn't handle the long winter (compared to the South) and they felt trapped even when there wasn't any snow or ice.

Medical - If they are in their 80's, there is a very real chance they are doing well because they are in familiar surroundings.  Sometimes as soon as someone that age moves somewhere new, it becomes clear they were mostly coping because they were routine and one of the two is actually doing a lot more caregiving then anyone realizes.  This happened to a neighbor.  She was mostly ok but as soon as they moved, she had to go to memory care because she tanked and it turned out the spouse had been managing it all.  (On the other hand, if this is happening and it's not clear.  It may be a reason to move.)

Possessions - What is the house situation?  People say they want to move but the logistics are too overwhelming.  You should be prepared, if they will let you, to physically pack up their house, negotiate over what they don't need anymore, sell the house, and move them.  They may not be able to manage it on their own.[/quote]

These are all super, super good points.[/quote]

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