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[quote=Anonymous]She should consult with a lawyer. But until she drops the fantasy that she can “make him get better” nothing much will happen. The danger is that she sees a separation/divorce as a way to manipulate him to get better - which will not work. She’s not separated from him mentally. If she actually DOES want to separate, my advice is that men like him actually do not want 50-50. Grandma probably doesn’t actually want to take care of 3 little kids either. So if she SKILLFULLY manages the separation so as not to trigger paranoia or fear, she could end up with a weekend-dad type situation. You make it clear from the outset you’re not trying to cut anyone off. So for example, bring up separation and say “I think the kids need us both in their lives but also stability. I was thinking they could be with me on school nights and with you on Friday nights and vacations. And you would be welcome to see them afterschool on my nights.”[/quote]
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