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If it was me, I would push back HARD on any suggestion that any of this is somehow my fault. I do not appreciate being put between a rock and a hard place, and then blamed. Sure, you can try to change your husband's mind, but honestly you know him best and if you think it's a waste of time, it's a waste of time, isn't it?

You can remind your son that YOU are supportive and have been for several years, and that YOU are attending the wedding, and that your husband is not your problem. Don't tell him right now, but when he's married for a while, he will understand that sometimes couples have strong differences of opinions and that sometimes, one spouse cannot easily convince the other.

Also, unless your husband is a complete donkey, time is probably on your side. My father didn't talk to me for 6 months when I announced at 20 that I was going to move to a different continent with my boyfriend, for grad school. He could not accept that his little girl was going to do something so alien to his conservative values. I'm sure my mother worked on him, but I didn't ask for her assistance, and he eventually came around and has been very supportive ever since.

All is not lost, OP. Coming outs and weddings are emotional things at the best of times, even for accepting and tolerant households, and tensions always surface. Your husband may come around and attend the wedding, or he might not, but will start being more understanding and appreciative later on.

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