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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Bankruptcy for sure.  Public assistance for sure.

If you can afford a small stipend, like a cable bill of $200, I would do that.  If you cannot, I wouldn’t.

Children are the future.  I wouldn’t short change your kids education.

Speaking from experience with a lot of family members in trouble- expect zero appreciation.  You won’t get it, weather is 200 or 2000 a month.  [/quote]

All of this.  My father declared bankruptcy several years ago and now lives in rent-controlled housing for senior citizens.  He has SS and Medicaid and mostly, those suffice for his needs.  DH and I are prioritizing our own retirements and financial health first, and then college for our kids.  With zero family help from either side, those things aren't cheap.

Oh - and therapy helped me *enormously* while this was going on.  I'd been in it for a while, so by that point was adept at setting boundaries, but my therapist helped so much with reinforcing and validating my perspective.  Good luck, OP.[/quote]

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