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[quote=Anonymous]I agree, cut anything unnecessary and outsource what you can.

The most important thing for my mental health, is deciding that I was not going to divorce my husband over the unequal workload and therefore resentment over it is counterproductive. It’s his complete inability to see the amount of mental work that goes into coordinating everything that drives me crazy. I acknowledge it to myself and then move on. In practice, sometimes my resentment bubbles out and I pick a fight, but that’s only like 3-4 times a year. When the kids were younger, I could feel us slipping into an affectionless marriage, and I didn’t want that.

I try to set up regular appointments in the late afternoons early evenings where either of us can cover. And set up a routine where my husband is the default for some of them. Since he genuinely thinks that he does  an equal share of the parenting, I gently point out that having me cover 80% of appointments is not fair, and he’ll step up.

I keep every appointment on my calendar, even if he says that he’s going to cover it. If I absolutely need him to cover something, I remind him relentlessly. We have a shared electronic calendar I put everything into it.

Finally, I have totally mommy-tracked my job. I’m lucky that I can flex around appointments were needed. I have also been here long enough that I have leave to burn when I don’t have the energy to flex my time. [/quote]

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