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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What your parents like? I struggle with authority figures because my parents mostly ignored me when I was child, except when they were upset with me (when they'd yell at me or hit me). So I grew having no idea what to do with authority other than obey and hope I go unnoticed. I am particularly uncomfortable with the attention of authority figures, even positive attention -- I do not trust it and am always waiting for the other shoe to drop. I get tongue tied and don't know how to proceed. I am afraid of being punished and most comfortable being ignored, though of course also being ignored is triggering.

I guess that makes me "weird" according to PPs. I don't think I'm weird at all -- my issues are pretty easy to explain. But people have low tolerance for difference or difficulty. Why isn't that weird, I wonder? I guess I don't make the rules (I'm not an authority figure).[/quote]

This is interesting because I feel exactly the same way; however, my parents were really very benign - just basic 70s and 80s parenting.

Also, I actually do have some power at work. I am a department director at a major academic medical center with about 30 doctors and other healthcare professionals reporting to me. I am very well known in my field in both the US and abroad, and if I “say the word” I can (often) get people jobs, convince professional organizations to give someone an award, and strong arm our trainees get top tier fellowships. I have no problem being assertive and even outright aggressive (if necessary) in a professional setting with my colleagues, and I will fight tooth and nail for my group and my patients.

However, I shrink away and become tongue-tied and scatter-brained when I have to interact with figures of authority outside of my own sphere - like principals, store managers, etc.

It is very weird and I have not been able to overcome it.
I’m actually kind of relieved to hear that I am not the only one who feels this way.[/quote]

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