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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I read this in another thread and felt like making a comment but didn't want to hijack original thread, hence posting here for y'all to pitch in with ideas and solutions, instead of anecdotes and criticism of how others do it.

[quote=Anonymous]In my culture, children care for their aging parents except for the more serious cases. I am a bit disturbed that so many Americans leave their parents to be cared for by strangers (for decades!) and their children to be raised by strangers too (nannies). Smh.
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While it can be a more humane way to treat babies and elderly, its not always perfect or possible. Americans use to do the same not so long ago.

If you have large joint family homes, affordable live-in house help and nanny/nursing care then it can be done but that's really expensive and has its cons.

It often makes it tough on women traditionally burden of care falls on them.

Its easier when men contribute equally and several family members live in same home or in neighborhood to supplement care.

We need to transform societal set up to provide better for children, special need folks, sick, disabled and elders.

Neither extremes of putting all burden on one woman or depositing children and elders in chicken coops at mercy of strangers.

Same issues rise in childcare, either overwhelming mothers and killing their careers, putting double burden on them or leaving children in impersonal and loveless care.

There should be mandatory courses in high school so everyone can learn empathy and caregiving. We reap what we sow so caring for our children and parents will lead to us getting care when its our turn.

Housing should be more child/elder friendly and community involvement should be valued.

No intention to criticize anyone or illusion to have perfect solutions but this conversation needs to happen on national level.
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No, it doesn't.  [/quote]

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