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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know this is none of my business (!), just curious if others have an opinion:

My brother and his wife have four kids &lt;6. She escapes her life at any opportunity: camping with friends at least 1x/month (near & far - car&plane rides away), trains for marathons for hours at a time, volunteers at summer camp for several weekends - all q/o the family. They have 2x live in help so the kids are cared for but she is around inconsistently, relatively speaking. It was clear early that she loooved being pregnant but not the mothering. My brother asks her to stop the trips but she goes anyway. She goes to a women’s group therapy who cheer on her initiative. Neighbors have started to ask why she is on morning walks instead of walking the kids to school, why she isn’t around, etc. He wants to divorce but does not want to not have the kids everyday, he thinks that is what’s best for them. It might be! I’ve not offered any opinion/advice to him (and wouldn’t w/o his explicit request) but wouldn’t it be better to do it while they are young and don’t know any different?[/quote]

Your sister-in-law, who has 4 little kids, is prioritizing her own mental health. Her kids are cared for and she is taking care of her need. Maybe she does not need to be around her children full time to be a good mother. Maybe your brother should worry less about what the neighbors are saying. [/quote]

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