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[quote=Anonymous]My mid-80s father with Parkinson’s and other health problems has been going to the ER every month now for like a year. Sometimes he’s hospitalized for a few days to a week, sometimes sent home fairly quickly.
*Every single time* the goal of my parents has been to get him home ASAP with no help here because they think they are fine and can live independently. They treat every event like a singular event.
It’s just so frustrating because every time he comes home from the hospital now I am just thinking that he is being set up for yet another crisis. Last week he was discharged from the hospital and then my mother had to call 911 literally two hours after he was home because he was lying on the floor unresponsive.
I’ve tried to point out that if they had more help here (they can afford it) they could maybe prevent some of these emergencies and have a better overall quality of life but they are just so resistant to doing anything but pretending they are perfectly fine middle-age people who can live independently at home forever.
God forbid I bring up the issue of palliative care or hospice. They don’t want to hear it. 
I know these are their choices and their lives to live and what do I know, maybe living independently is actually keeping them going? But it just seems so insane to me and I cannot imagine choosing this for myself. At least my Dad no longer drives. I know in their minds they have made major concessions like that. But I still think they are just living in denial and it is so painful to watch.
I’d welcome any advice but really I just need to vent. I know there’s nothing I can do. They’re adults and it’s their choice.[/quote]

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