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[quote=Anonymous]I am very frustrated with my DH and the distribution of "life administration" tasks in our household.

Basically, anything involving scheduling, logistics, money, or maintaining relationships falls on me. This includes all of the stuff for our kids and pest but also things that should be squarely on him in my view. Examples include making sure we keep in touch with and visit with his mother, setting up visits with his sister, scheduling hang outs with his friends and responding to birthday party invitations etc. that come through his contacts. Probably the most frustrating tasks are reminding him to set up doctor's appointments and dentist appointments, ensuring that his money stuff gets taken care of (example -- he wants to invest a bonus and just doesn't do it. Six months later, the money sits in his savings), and having to repeatedly remind him to take care of basic house repairs stuff.

I find this lack of initiative insulting -- it feels like I am majorly being taken advantage of -- and I find myself resenting him. I bring it up, he vows to change, and nada. There have even been a few instances where I've told him I am not reminding him or taking care of the tasks anymore and he will say, "Oh great, let me take that on." But then just drops the ball. I will get upset, he will vow to change, repeat.

FWIW, we both work full-time and have two small kids so I really am running out of bandwidth here. Any advice? [/quote]

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