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[quote=Anonymous]Yes, you have to practice radical acceptance. It sucks, you can't control it, but you CANNOT change it so you must accept it. My sister did very little, was treated like royalty during visits and got many financial bonuses. Now focus on how you can reduce your load so you are not burned out and resentful. Use the money from selling her things to hire people to take on some of what you do. Let your sister know she has a choice, you can use moms money for x,y and z or your sister can take it on. Hire someone to check on your mom. That person can also visit during hospitalizations and advocate better than you can because she/he knows how the system works. You still visit, but you can visit for less time, or sometimes skip a visit if it's something minor. Make a list of all you are doing and figure out what can easily have money thrown at it. Hire, hire, hire. Elderly can live a loooooong time. The sooner you get her used to outsourcing professionals the better.[/quote]
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