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[quote=Anonymous]My mother has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s for about 18 months.  She’s been in a memory care facility for about a year.

My sister has visited her twice and both times she got something out of it (my moms car, furniture & china from her home).

She won’t spend more than an hour with our mother and I know it’s because it’s hard on her to see her like this but I can feel the resentment building.

DH & I do 100% of the eldercare and dealt with all the hassle is selling a lot of her belongings and her home once she transitioned into memory care.

I’m exhausted and I know that my sister can’t help as much as I can because I am retired and she’s still working but I feel like I can’t count on her at all.

I flew out last month to see my daughter and my Mom was hospitalized with a UTI and my sister would not go deal with it.

“We have plans this weekend”.

I can’t tell you how many times I changed plans, vacations etc.  I just asked one time and she couldn’t do it.

I know it is what it is and I doubt anything will change.  My mom will be fine soon and I’ll only have my sister.  I want to maintain our relationship but all this has really made me see a side of her that’s disappointing.

Has anyone ever been through a similar situation?  How do you swallow those feelings to keep the relationship?  We are very close but this has really taken a toll. [/quote]

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