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[quote=Anonymous]As you get older, does it ever occur to you that—after you die—someone (most likely loved ones) will have to deal with all of your stuff?

I’m curious as to why people don’t do their own preparations for late stages/end of life, even if it’s just a clear list of “I’d like my china to go to my niece, Carrie, if she wants it.” Some type of list that would essentially be “first offer should go to” and then a person’s name.

And for goodness’ sake, I hope that list would also include, “Please don’t feel bad if no one wants any of these items. Please feel free to donate or sell, or discard.”

I’ve seen my parents and my ILs deal with the death of their parents, and each couple was overwhelmed by the whole process. And yet they are gearing up to do the same thing to us. They accumulate, accumulate, accumulate, and go on and on about how this chair is very special, or this jewelry is very special, or this gravy boat is very special.

I plan to make it clear to my loved ones that, here’s the history/significance, but you do not need to feel burdened or obligated to keep any of this. It’s just stuff. I don’t want it to mire you down.[/quote]

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