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[quote=Anonymous]SIL's HS reunion is coming up. She and my BIL want to get a hotel and be able to drink and not have to drive.

They have asked us to take in their 2 kids overnight, ages 4 and 7. The 4 y/o still needs help in the bathroom.

Here's the thing: we don't have any strong established relationship with their kids. We have never watched their kids alone for even 1 hour. We have a 4 year old, DH and I both work full-time. I am also in grad school so any extra evening time is for my studying. I don't want to give up 24 hours of what is normally quiet family time to have 3, rambunctious kids in my house. There's a reason DH and I have one kid. We like our downtime and quiet time.

My SIL received full-time childcare from my MIL for 5+ years while her kids were young until recently. In the past few years, MI got sick and had to downsize her home with FIL. They now live 2 hours away. I'm not sure why they're asking us and not my BIL's mom who watches their girls on a regular basis.

I'm not opposed to helping them out now and then - but when we went to SIL for help in the past with childcare emergencies she was never available. She and my MIL never watched my son once. As a result, DH and I built a strong network of babysitters and nannies who have watched our kids overnight on the occasion, at the cost of $25/hr. SIL does not want to pay this, nor does she have any babysitters she can call on since she's relied on MIL. What if one of them pukes in the middle of the night and BIL and SIL are wasted and don't come and pick them up? THere was just too many variables that I was not comfortable with.

This is not my problem, right? SIL is very chuffed with my DH that we won't take her kids for an entire night. We don't have a strong relationship with them. DH hasn't talked to her in several weeks, we only really see them at holidays and birthdays. [/quote]

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