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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH has been at his current company for 4.5 years. He's been in more or less the same role for that entire time. Prior to this job, he job hopped quite frequently (had three jobs where he was there for two years or less). Most of these job changes were for legit reasons (poor management, bad pay, changed fields).

He's been pretty happy with this job/company; it's 100% remote, he gets five weeks PTO, generally likes the work and people he works with. However, the one sticking point for him is the pay/lack of ability to move up. He's being asked to take on more work, but whenever he's asked about a raise, management always says "we'll reevaluate at the end of the year." He's typically received 4% raises and a 1-2% bonus every year. He believes that he's being underpaid by about $5-10K or so.

I'm the breadwinner in our house by about $15k. I'm a fed, and it's pretty unlikely that I'd be able to find a job that has a similar combination of salary and job security anywhere else, so I'm not changing jobs anytime soon. While we're fine on both of our salaries for now, [b]we're currently TTC for kid #2. In addition to all the other kid related expenses, having a second kid means that we'll have to move out of our 3 bedroom house into something bigger[/b] (which has always been our plan). Basically, I'm starting to have some money anxiety.

DH has been talking broadly about searching for a new job, and I know he's applied to a few places, but he hasn't been attacking it with the same level of vigor that he's approached job searches in the past. I wonder if DH is just too comfortable at this role, and doesn't want to jump out of his comfort zone. He's admitted that since our daughter was born three years ago, and with Covid, he's become a bit less ambitious, and is less focused on work, and more focused on his family. I'm obviously happy about that and I love that he's an engaged Dad, and not working 80 hours a week, but I just do wish there was a way for him to keep this same mindset while making some more money. Am I wrong in feeling this way? [/quote]

Why do you need more than three bedrooms for a family of four?[/quote]

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