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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did all these things with dad. These tips are all over the internet. I think it may be part of the DAWN method. I watched videos with tips, read articles. It is useful....with some types of dementia.

Mom has angry, hostile, paranoid, save my wrath for one child and act out against others when she distances herself...dementia. I think we need to see more articles about abusive/hostile dementia. Good luck using all these tips when you are the target. Also, researchers are finding a decent percentage of these tyrants always were difficult, so don't it doesn't work to tell us family members it's not the same person at all. In mom's case she is saying all the things she may have said before and then apologized. There is no remorse anymore, no filter and nobody to commiserate with because I am the target and when she lashes out at anyone else it's my fault because I backed away and hired a team to manage her care.[/quote]

Yes, I agree. The article may be helpful to people who have a loved one with early stage dementia or whose dementia is primarily manifesting in confusion and memory loss. But what about the many dementia patients who are violent, aggressive, abusive? What about the refusing to eat or drink or take meds or go to the Dr? What about the anger and depression that many dementia patients have? These are not uncommon aspects of dementia yet no one talks about how to deal w them. Most people think dementia=asking same questions/telling same stories over and over and being forgetful about where you place things. It’s so much more than that in our experience with my MIL.[/quote]

+1. Also, loss of ability to communicate. My loved one w dementia cannot speak in an intelligible way anymore so we have no idea what she’s saying/trying to say and she gets incredibly (understandably) frustrated w us for not understanding her.[/quote]

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