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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are good tips in here. I would add that when you start to do this with a loved one (deflecting, avoiding topics, acting happy and calm when you’re not), you’ve entered an important new stage of the person not “really being there.” It feels terrible to be inauthentic with a person you love and respect and it is a real loss. So sometimes I think people resist these strategies in order to avoid that feeling. There’s a lot of slow motion grieving in these situations that can be hard for people to honor/deal with because the other person is “still there.”[/quote] This is a really beautiful way of putting it. There is a self-protective boundary being set when you realize the person is not really there anymore. Your interaction becomes about keeping them calm and at peace. The expectation that you will get anything authentic back goes away.[/quote]
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