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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I are both 38.  We always went back and forth on the thought of two, but for me I feel like it was the social pressures of having another vs actually wanting one.  Ultimately, we decided that we were one and done, and I have been on birth control since DS was 2.5.  Our DS is 4 and we are having a blast with this new phase of independence and activities.  Flash forward to last week, we found out we are expecting.  I feel so guilty that my first thought was complete sadness.  I feel totally blindsided (I know birth control is not 100%), financially unprepared, and mentally unprepared.  I am so scared about being AMA and going through pregnancy/delivery all over again.  We just got into a new phase of our lives, and we are starting again from complete scratch.  I am so scared about the age gap between our children, though DS would make a great big brother and always ask us for a little sibling.  I am scared my relationship with DH will suffer.  Are these feelings normal?  Has anyone been through this?  [b]Positive stories about having children 5 years apart[/b]?  I am hoping once I have more time to process everything that I will consider this a blessing and be happy, but I am so overwhelmed at the moment. [/quote]

A 2nd is easier.  Just is.  The 5 year gap helps a lot, too, because your 5 year old will help out to some degree.  [/quote]

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