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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not uncommon. For some ppl, once they become parents they appreciate their parents more. For others, the opposite happens.

I've had mixed feeling about my parents once I became one myself. I realized how gruelingly hard it was, especially the infant/toddler years, trying to balance work and family obligations, all the worries, etc. To experience those first hand made me really appreciate the hard work my mom put in for us, and she's someone who'd never cut corners.

On the other hand, I was also horrified by how they thought they could just control us like their personal property. I see my kids as their own person, with distinct interests and personalities, and recognize that while I need to guide them, ultimately they have to choose what kind of person they want to be. My parents would steamroll over us and deny my agency even well into adulthood.[/quote]

This is a great post, and I could have written a lot of it. My kids are teens and at each stage to date, I’ve had to face new ways in which my parents did the best they could, but it was not nearly enough (and in some cases, didn’t even meet Base level).

It’s unsurprising though. My parents like many of their generation didn’t consider emotional needs a real need or a basis for decision making.  We see the world differently and importantly gen z sees the world differently.

Lots of angry people on this thread.  Usually happens in DCUM and in real life when people don’t want to look too closely at their own behavior.[/quote]

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