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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have never had “mom friends”; I don’t get it. I don’t want to be friends with someone just because they have kids my kids’ age.

I have a rising 3rd and 6th grader. No local family. Not lonely on weekends. I don’t understand now that is possible: I spend time with my kids. I work a lot so weekends are our time. Not with other people.

I am sure it is possible for you to find but I suspect a lot of people in this area feel like me. I think you would have an easier time with this in a more slow-paced area rather than the DMV. [/quote]

The vast majority of our socializing is with friends we made before kids. Some have kids, some don't. Our kids are not all the same age. We socialize the way people socialize with family -- you just get everyone together, the kids play together like cousins (doesn't matter if they are into the same stuff or the same age -- they just know these kids from years of exposure and find ways to play).

I had one friend who was a mom friend in the way you mean, where we met through our kids and our kids are friends and our families get together and everything matches up. She moved away! It happens.

Especially as kids get older, the idea of needing to be friends with the moms of the other kids at school and in activities really fades. I'm friendly with them, but not friends. I'd be reluctant to try and develop a friendship because I don't want it to impact my kid's school life or activities. I fully support my kid's friendships (play dates, birthday parties, lining up activities with specific friends, etc.) but I don't feel the need for our social lives to line up neatly.[/quote]

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