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[quote=Anonymous]I’m 99% sure my 15 year old son got cancelled but have no idea what happened. Body language from his old friends and the moms tells me he did something heinous but I’m at a loss of what it might be. I first suspected he pulled away from middle school friends at the end of 8th grade. Fast forward he just finished 9th grade and he doesn’t have any friends. We’ve had to severely limit x-box because if you let him, that’s all he would do when he’s not in school.

At first I didn’t want to meddle because I figured it was normal friend group dynamics that the boys need to sort out; but now I get the feeling he really offended someone so bad that he’s been canceled. I’ve offered to take his friends to dinner, movies or have them come over and he doesn’t want to initiate any social activity with old or new friends.

To make matters worse, its been a rough year, his dad and I have been in mediation all year planning to divorce; it’s been stressful so I haven’t been focused on sons social/emotional needs. We have not finalized the separation agreement, life has not been happy at home, but trying to be cordial; we will tell the boys once finalized.

It’s terrifying to realize we’re about to separate and my son does not have a solid friend group to lean on. I’ve talked to his pediatrician and they suspect he is depressed and this is how some boys display depression, by acting out. They are screening for depression and will make recommendations on counseling etc.

WWYD? Do I meet with one of the former friends moms and ask, “hey I noticed the boys haven’t been hanging out; did DS do anything I should know about?” I know I have to be careful on who I ask. I’ve asked my son directly why he doesn’t hang out with old friends or why he doesn’t invite new friends and I don’t get any answers. I feel so sad for him (and us) and want to help but I don’t know how. Whether it’s a rumor or something real, I want to get to the bottom of it. The teen peer group is so important right now and I’m afraid he’s turning into a loner.  I know my son can be obnoxious at times but he also has so many great qualities- he is caring, loving, funny, interesting and smart. 
.. this seems so permanent. [/quote]

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